corrupt communication

In our day and age, communication has become such a problem between couples. This is really funny actually because communication has never been so readily available. We can call or text at anytime and converse with those whom we know or even don’t know. The simple communication however isn’t the thing that we are having problems with. It is the mixed signals and the corrupt communication. There are simple ways of over coming these problems however and I hopefully will explain them fully and accurately.

Empathy, Assertiveness, and respect are all great foundations of communication. Empathy is the ability to relate too. Someone’s struggle can be felt by another when trying their best to understand the predicament their companion or friend is going through. There are actually 3 different points that are said to help empathy. The first is the Disarming technique. This technique is simply used to help whomever know that you mean them no harm and really are trying to help them. This can be done simply by agreeing or showing someone that you are listening to them. You can listen and reason instead of arguing and giving blame. This can be hard however. Most times this requires admitting your wrong and not being defensive to others’ accusations.

The next step is to Express Empathy. This is relating to others with their problems. It can be done by giving personal experiences of how you and their situations can be similar. The next step is Inquiry or talking more. This involves us asking questions to their conversation to show that we are interested and engaged in their conversation. These are the simple steps of Empathy.

The next step is show Assertiveness and this is done through when, felt like, because, and I would like it if. These are confusing but let me explain. When you are wishing to state your side of the story, you must do it with assertiveness and explain fully about something. When you made that joke about me, I felt like you care about your friends laughing more than me because you value their opinions. I would like it if you didn’t do that anymore. This is a good example of how to fully express your feelings.

The final step is Express Genuine or authentic admiration and appreciation. This last step is the resolving step. It is important to give the last bit of respect to show that you do not think poorly of them in the way they think. It further shows that you fully understand and still care about them as a person. With this added love and respect, they have no choice but to lower their guard against you.

All of these steps though are useless if given with corrupt communication. Corrupt communication ranges from the silent treatment all the way to severe sarcasm. Anything that isn’t the truth or the intended purpose is corrupt communication. We should practice our communication continually with those we love and care about. Without a pure form of communication, there is information lost as people take different meanings from speech. In our day, there is always room for corrupt communication. Texts, email, and even telephone calls leave a large area for misunderstanding. We can improve on this by making sure our text or speech is simple and to the point.

The way we feel and what we say are many times two things. Feelings and strong emotions often cloud our judgement. Anger, when provoked, causes more corrupt communication than as if we were silent. Now the question comes of how we can remain level headed through all the struggles that we have in our relationships. It’s not easy. In fact, it is extremely hard. Many times, it is best to pass your feelings to your friend or companion. Tell them your frustrations and admit that your level thinking is off because you are frustrated. Then go on to explain that even though you are not level headed, you still need to have your feelings expressed and still need empathy. All of this isn’t just a one-time thing. We must try continually to build our relationships in communication.